How to tell someone they re a narcissist. It it very hard to start again and remember that I AM worthy of a good life regardless of what he called me or thought of me. That then allows him to destroy you emotionally when he stops paying attention to you or starts abusing you. And because what cannot be must not be, it is not. Holidays are stupid. Lies all lies he slandered my name. Once you realize what their bag contains, be prepared to encounter them with wisdom and a plan to disarm them!!!!! I have been dating one for five years and I really believe he is trying hard to cure himself. Thoughts on this post?