Signs my husband is having an affair. Oh my God, I am married to the same exact man as u are! This is really interesting. My husband told me just a few days ago that a girl just came up to him out of the blue and kissed him. I think that after reading this, I have come to understand my own behaviour better and have better accepted that I am, in fact, asexual. Does he tell you that you'll never be able to find someone else? My just turned 55 year old husband of 20 years went on a week long trip to Florida to visit a friend who had moved there about a year ago. I had sex just for him but never liked it. The two are completely separate and you can be one and not the other. Honestly, I would think about it twice. I find some people hot tho. We have attended counseling, had prayer, and now I am beyond emotionally tired and frustrated.