Ways to last long during sex. The way you manage your own thoughts, concentration, and confidence levels during the intercourse could sabotage your efforts to last longer in bed. You can say bye-bye, pre-cum. She was much more experienced than myself, and sexually active. If you have any comments or questions about what we have covered you can leave a comment below you can comment anonymously. With Moira, I found I could focus on her orgasms, share them in my mind, cum in my mind without actually cumming physically. Hi Michael. But now we go straight into the act. Dan Becket. There is a technique mentioned in the Kama Sutra can help you last longer in bed. For many guys, taking the tool out often and reinserting it while having sex helps them stay hard for a lot longer.