What causes a sexless marriage. She had no desire to actually be sexually intimate because she did not want to be vulnerable … she isolated herself from me on many levels. They avoid the trap of focusing on talk to the exclusion of listen. A friend of hers came down two weeks back, introduced her to Geocaching. My kids have not been baptised neither can they attend church with me. Willard Harley Jr. I am a wife who has suffered from depression for many years. So of course I got angry. Hopefully, others find this blog and find a way out too. For some couples, the road to a healthy sex life may require outside help. Someone has to to break the emotional grdilock. If sex and love are in a marriage at the same time then that is wonderful. This is one of the few posts on sexless marriage that is actually helpful.