Wife led relationship husband denied sex. I got a good financial outlook, but not emotional outlook. I have focused on my job and excelled, you should to. If he does this correctly she can feel secure in the decision that he makes. My question is for my particular situation, who should take the standard male lead, considering we are both male. Why not you ask? Even if you restrain which is very very hard yourselves you will feel bad. However the blatant sexism in the whole situation becomes clear when you try to imagine the reverse. Your wife probably had one. Any family court will pass the judgement. Ask everything you want to politely and take your time but leave it all. Taunts from her friends are not at all acceptable.